How do you live with the fact your dad chose a whole other family over you?
He told my sister and I a week before his girlfriend of two months and her three kids were moving in.
We watched my mom deteriorate from cancer a few years earlier.
My sister suffered horrible anxiety and depression after my mom died and she was finally beginning to make serious progress.
I begged my dad to wait until April was away at college. I begged him to wait because this was too fast. I begged him to listen to my words and my feelings
He responded with “you are ruining my happiness. This is my house and I will do what I want.”
And that was it. He still moved them in.
My heart began to crack.
But i tried to remain positive.
It was too overwhelming.
Too fast.
Too heartbreaking.
Too much.
The girlfriend and her kids took over. The pictures of my sister and I began to disappear.
A few days later my dad and I began this huge argument. He told me to never ask him for anything again. He told me to be very carful with what I say to him and his new family.
I then told him I was leaving and he told me he thought that was best.
So I left.
It’s been three years and we rarely speak.
The girlfriend broke up with him and now he is trying to be back in my life.
However when I left he ignored me for two or three months at a time. Then when he would message me it was to tell me how horrible I was for trying to ruin things.
I don’t know how to see past what happened. It is always in the back of my head that he chose them over me. I want him to be a part of my life but it kills me to know that he did that.
It breaks my heart every day.
Do I still get him a Father’s Day gift?
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